No one can tell what goes on between the person you were and the person you become. No one can chart that blue and lonely section of hell. There are no maps of the change. You just come out the other side." ~ Stephen King, The Stand
I always find beauty in things that are odd & imperfect - they are much more interesting - Marc Jacobs Stop thinking of your imperfections as flaws - they are what make you uniquely and beautifully YOU!
before you say yes, get him angry. see him scared, see him wanting, see him sick. stress changes a person. find out if he drinks and if he does get him drunk- you'll learn more about his sober thoughts. discover his addictions.
Remember not to blame feelings on others. Happiness is a choice so choose to be happy! Surround yourself with people who choose to be happy not because someone is making them happy or because things are going their way; that is not true happiness.