Just because a person doesn't put hands on you, that doesn't mean they aren't abusive. Abuse is control, blatant disrespect, & also hurtful words. Don't settle for emotional abuse thinking it's ok because it's not physical.
They say, abusers and controllers choose others who are kind and who will give them the benefit of the doubt. I guess this is why. Well, I'm over that. I had to learn the HARD way, but better late than never and never again.
Put your own oxygen masks on first. We can guve and help othrrs only from our overflow and reserve of good energy. We must help ourselves first and then give to others. VALUE YOURSELVES EVEN IF IT MEANS HARD WORK!