Not everything has to be perfect today you can have days when you feel like shit when you feel strange unsure scared confused and lost - just know that you have tomorrow to pick yourself up again dust yourself off and start over better than before.
You first have to face and accept your own bullshit that needs changing and then take action to change the bullshit. Call yourself on your own bullshit. If you can't it's because your too weak or scared to face the truth about yourself. Man Up!