It's easy to judge it's more difficult to understand understanding requires compassion patience and a willingness to believe that good heart sometimes choose poor methods through judging we separate through understanding we grow
" Be less of a judge and you will be surprised that when you become a witness and you don't judge yourself, you stop judging others too. And that makes you more human, more compassionate, more understanding.
I've lost people I loved to addictions. One thing I know is that I never hated them, I hated their behaviour, i hated their pain and wounds that drove that behaviour. but I never hated them. I loved them deeply.