If you haven't read NEVERWHERE yet, read the new edition, complete with Croup and Vandemar prologue and a Marquis de Carabas story. If you have read it, read it again! Thid is easily one of my favorite books!
The moment that you feel that, just possibly, you're walking down the street naked, exposing too much of your heart and your mind and what exists on the inside, showing too much of yourself. That's the moment you may be starting to get things right.