INFJ/ yes! It in maddening! I have learned to do both when needed, but I am not good at either one for long periods of time. I will not lead those who expect to blame me for their mistakes, and I will not follow someone who doesn't know how to understand me. Yes it's paradoxical! Lol.
I have the deepest affection for intellectual conversations. The ability to just sit and talk. About love, about life, about anything, about everything . Bound by no obligations, barred by no human limitations .