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A topic that regularly comes up in my practice is dealing with conflict between mothers and daughters.
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Take a moment today to focus on YOUR needs. Ask yourself: "Am I feeling underappreciated or disregarded by someone that I am in a relationship with?” Reflect on: “If I don’t express my feelings, what hinders me from advocating for my own needs?” You deserve to be heard and valued. Feelings, Daughter, Relationship, Mother Daughter, Mother, Mother Daughter Relationships, You Deserve, Take That, In This Moment
Feeling Underappreciated or Disregarded?
Take a moment today to focus on YOUR needs. Ask yourself: "Am I feeling underappreciated or disregarded by someone that I am in a relationship with?” Reflect on: “If I don’t express my feelings, what hinders me from advocating for my own needs?” You deserve to be heard and valued.
The rebel, the cycle breaker, is the one who goes against the dysfunctional patterns in their family. They are the ones who challenge traditional beliefs and behaviours, even if it means resistance and criticism from their family. It’s not an easy road. It takes courage to speak up for your needs, and for the needs of the next generation, by choosing to live your life that aligns with your own values rather than conforming to traditional expectations. Challenges, Beliefs, Dysfunctional, Behavior
Cycle breaker or Rebel
The rebel, the cycle breaker, is the one who goes against the dysfunctional patterns in their family. They are the ones who challenge traditional beliefs and behaviours, even if it means resistance and criticism from their family. It’s not an easy road. It takes courage to speak up for your needs, and for the needs of the next generation, by choosing to live your life that aligns with your own values rather than conforming to traditional expectations.
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything & your heart will be wrung & possibly broken. Love, Vulnerability, You Must, Relationship Coach
To love at all is to be vulnerable
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything & your heart will be wrung & possibly broken.
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything & your heart will be wrung & possibly broken.
To love at all is to be vulnerable
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything & your heart will be wrung & possibly broken.
You will teach them to fly, But they will not fly your flight. You will teach them to dream, But they will not dream your dream. You will teach them to live, But they will not live your life. Nevertheless, in every flight, In every life, in every dream, The print of the way you taught Will always remain. ~Mother Teresa image: Kindel Media Kids, Summer, Adoption, Children, Lawn, Gardening, Tips, Adoptive Parents
She will not dream your dream
You will teach them to fly, But they will not fly your flight. You will teach them to dream, But they will not dream your dream. You will teach them to live, But they will not live your life. Nevertheless, in every flight, In every life, in every dream, The print of the way you taught Will always remain. ~Mother Teresa image: Kindel Media
Mothers and Daughters, no one changes unless they want to.  Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them.  Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love.

There’s only one thing that makes someone change:

their own realisation that they need to do it. And there’s only one time it will happen:  when they decide they’re ready.

Lori Deschene Relationships, Mothers, Daughters, Tough Love, Shit Happens
Mother-Daughter Relationship Coach
Mothers and Daughters, no one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There’s only one thing that makes someone change: their own realisation that they need to do it. And there’s only one time it will happen: when they decide they’re ready. Lori Deschene
Are you trying to navigate family get-togethers at this time of year? Feeling overwhelmed, not sure which way to turn? My latest blog contains tips to help. I also include a reflection of my time wandering Scandinavia and visiting Santa Claus in his home - it was certainly something to write home about!
Christmas with Your Relatives
Are you trying to navigate family get-togethers at this time of year? Feeling overwhelmed, not sure which way to turn? My latest blog contains tips to help. I also include a reflection of my time wandering Scandinavia and visiting Santa Claus in his home - it was certainly something to write home about!
Dealing with conflict between mothers & daughters is a topic that regularly comes up in my practice. Even with the best relationship, mothers and daughters will find themselves in conflict. Often the conflict arises when one or both are triggered by a comment or an action from the other. My latest blog looks at the underlying issues in the relationship between mothers and daughters. Action, Parents, Parenting Tips, Parenting, Counseling, Counsellor
Conflict In Mother-Daughter Relationships, Sorting It Out
Dealing with conflict between mothers & daughters is a topic that regularly comes up in my practice. Even with the best relationship, mothers and daughters will find themselves in conflict. Often the conflict arises when one or both are triggered by a comment or an action from the other. My latest blog looks at the underlying issues in the relationship between mothers and daughters.
How do you manage stress, responsibilities or make decisions in the midst of your relationships with partner, children, friends or work colleagues? How do you stop overfunctioning in relationships? Overfunctioners (OF) take responsibility for organising the family; resolve conflicts; take on emotional worries in relationships. There's tips to handle this difficulty. Friends, Stress Management, How Do You Stop, No Response, Decisions
How to Stop Overfunctioning in Relationships %%Janice Williams Mother-Daughter Counsellor & Coach%% Janice Williams Counselling Services
How do you manage stress, responsibilities or make decisions in the midst of your relationships with partner, children, friends or work colleagues? How do you stop overfunctioning in relationships? Overfunctioners (OF) take responsibility for organising the family; resolve conflicts; take on emotional worries in relationships. There's tips to handle this difficulty.
Some things in life are difficult to avoid, such as illness, loss of job or other life challenges. But we can adapt to our circumstances and adjust our sails to take us on a journey least expected. The voyage may not be what you wanted, navigating the unexpected. There will be grief, loss of dreams, there will be fighting against this ‘force of nature’. You may feel swamped with a tornado of emotions. You may cry out, “why me?” Modifying the sails will assist for a smoother adjustment. Nature, Journey, Life Challenges, Voyage, Unexpected, Unknown, The Originals, Us Sailing, Life
Some things in life are difficult to avoid, such as illness, loss of job or other life challenges. But we can adapt to our circumstances and adjust our sails to take us on a journey least expected. The voyage may not be what you wanted, navigating the unexpected. There will be grief, loss of dreams, there will be fighting against this ‘force of nature’. You may feel swamped with a tornado of emotions. You may cry out, “why me?” Modifying the sails will assist for a smoother adjustment.
Patriarchy and Stereotypes Affecting Mother-Daughter Relationships International Women’s Day, Woman’s Day, Patriarchy, Discrimination, Stereotype
Patriarchy and Stereotypes on M-D Relationships
This International Women’s Day, many events will be exploring the theme of Breaking The Bias – looking at how to achieve a world free of bias, stereotypes, and discrimination, a world where difference is valued and celebrated. Read my latest blog on how patriarchy and stereotypes has affected the mother-daughter relationship. There’s also 8 Tips on how to break the bias and stereotypes. Image credit: Joel Muniz, Unsplash
The Lost Daughter film has created lots of discussion – the meaning of motherhood, leaving children in the care of others, juggling career and motherhood, placing a mother’s own longing above the needs of her children. See blog for more. Films, Motherhood, Best Mother, Meant To Be
How The Lost Daughter Examines Mother-Guilt and Shame of Motherhood %%Janice Williams Mother-Daughter Counsellor & Coach%% Janice Williams Counselling Services
The Lost Daughter film has created lots of discussion – the meaning of motherhood, leaving children in the care of others, juggling career and motherhood, placing a mother’s own longing above the needs of her children. See blog for more.
“Mothers of daughters are daughters of mothers & have remained so, in circles joined to circles, since time began” Signe Hammer, Poet Generations of women connected together, relationships with each other, linking mothers & daughters down the Motherline. The relationship with our mother is recreated in our relationship with our daughter. Knowing your mother’s & grandmother’s story, is walking inside your own story. Grandmother
Mother-Daughter Relationship Coach
“Mothers of daughters are daughters of mothers & have remained so, in circles joined to circles, since time began” Signe Hammer, Poet Generations of women connected together, relationships with each other, linking mothers & daughters down the Motherline. The relationship with our mother is recreated in our relationship with our daughter. Knowing your mother’s & grandmother’s story, is walking inside your own story.
Daughters Seeking Approval from Mother. Women, Wellbeing, Health And Wellbeing
Daughters Seeking Approval from Mother.
Daughters Seeking Approval from their Mothers. Pursuing/distancing relationship is not uncommon for daughters of mothers down the generational line who have unfulfilled dreams and been invisible and unheard in their own families. The wounded mother, the wounded child.
Often I've been asked what I do as a Mother Daughter Relationship Coach. My latest blog explains how I work with women to explore patterns of interactions going back 3 generations which significantly impacts the mothers and daughters down the female line to the present. Coaching
Coaching with Janice - Mother-Daughter Relationships
As a Mother-Daughter Relationship Coach, I've often been asked what I do in this specific field. My latest blog explains how I work with women to explore patterns of interactions going back 3 generations which significantly impacts the mothers and daughters down the female line to the present. Using tools and strategies, I help mothers and daughters create a roadmap for change.
There is an unspoken expectation that women are to be care-givers, not only to partners and children, but also to parents. When a mother feels that she has sacrificed and neglected herself for others, there is the expectation that her adult daughter will also care for her. This sacrifice and neglect is inherited from past generations and often advances down the female line into future relationships between mothers and daughters.


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Am I neglecting myself and doing too much for other people? How will I feel tonight if I continue to neglect myself today?
Letting go of dreams of what they thought would be, and adjusting to a new way Thoughts, Let's Go, What You Think, Letting Go, Thinking Of You, Let It Be
Mother-Daughter Relationship Coach
A recent ep of "This Is Us" between a mother & grandmother about the mum’s struggle to adjust to her daughter creating own dreams, her own future. The mum had different dreams of how she imagined her daughter would become. Mum thought she had let go of those dreams some time ago. The grandmum reminded her, “this is the part of letting go, of what you thought would be, & adjust to what is. The real picture of the woman you’ve actually become, the things you actually want, are just as beautiful.”
Loss of identity when women become mums and tips on how you can find your way back People, Ayurveda, Grief Healing, Woman, Reproductive Health, Psicologia, Grief
Loss of Identity When Women Become Mums
Women who have lost their identity once they become mums. Look at generational factors, and the Lost Woman who has no idea of her value and identity outside of her caring role for children, partners, parents - constantly gives out to others yet may only receive crumbs of love and attention in return. If you are the Lost Woman, there's tips on how you can find your way back.
Knowing your mother’s story, your grandmother’s story, the female line of your history, is walking inside your own story. Who was your mother before she became a mother? Who was your grandmother before she became a grandmother? What was she like as a woman? Embracing and owning your story is the bravest thing that you can do. Letting go of what others think of you and accepting your worth is to empower yourself. Knowing You, You Can Do, Your Story
Mother-Daughter Relationship Coach
Knowing your mother’s story, your grandmother’s story, the female line of your history, is walking inside your own story. Who was your mother before she became a mother? Who was your grandmother before she became a grandmother? What was she like as a woman? Embracing and owning your story is the bravest thing that you can do. Letting go of what others think of you and accepting your worth is to empower yourself.
Woman thinking about her relationship with her mother and how to heal this relationship. Difficult Relationship
Difficult relationships with mothers and daughters, it’s like a secret which no one talks about, yet many women experience.
Women need time for ourselves, time for ME. If you don't give yourself space, don't give yourself time for you, what value do you put on yourself? What are you teaching others about the value you place on your relationship with yourself? Places, Teaching, Put On, Space
Value You Place on Yourself
Women need time for ourselves, time for ME. If you don't give yourself space, don't give yourself time for you, what value do you put on yourself? What are you teaching others about the value you place on your relationship with yourself?
Emotional starvation or neglect in childhood creates difficulty in dealing with emotions and as adults, will seek out people to fill the emptiness within. Childhood, Emotions, Adulthood, Impact, Fill
Emotional Starvation and Its Impacts in Adulthood
Emotional starvation in childhood creates difficulty in dealing with emotions and as adults, will seek out people to fill the emptiness within.
Parent and child connecting with each other. Our kids learn from us, the way we learned from our parents. Parents influence the next generation. Kids Fashion, Photoshoot, Role Models, Girl, Model, Mom, Mood
How Parents Influence Your Life
Parents influence a child's life significantly. We observed and interacted with our parents and learned their mannerisms, their behaviours, how they related to others, the unconscious stuff. Our kids now observe us – they hear what we say, see what we do. It can be a wake-up call to be an improved role-model to our children.
I've been reflecting on disability, in light of my mother's unseen disability, in this week of International Day of Disability. This article is about disabilities that are not seen, and the impacts this has, touching on pain, feelings of not belonging, and assumptions from others about disabilities. Salute, Chuck Palahniuk, Seniors, Greats, Vida, Caregiver, Elderly Parents, Selamat Hari Ibu
How does an Invisible Disability impact a Person's Life
I've been reflecting on disability, in light of my mother's unseen disability, in this week of International Day of Disability. This article is about disabilities that are not seen, and the impacts this has, touching on pain, feelings of not belonging, and assumptions from others about disabilities.
Connecting with others during Covid19. See my blog titled Contained Connection Bora Bora, Us Virgin Islands, Trips, Saving Money, Viajes, Honor, Visiting, Family Support, Vacation
Contained Connection %%Janice Williams Mother-Daughter Counsellor & Coach%% Janice Williams Counselling Services
Connecting with others during Covid19. See my blog titled Contained Connection