Time outs don't work. Positive reinforcement - Put a cotton ball, marble, pom-pom, etc. in every time you catch your child being good. Do something special when it's full. This is exactly what I need instead of focusing on the bad.
How To Limit Kids' TV & Computer Time: Each Sunday give the kids 10 tickets for the week. Each ticket = 30 minutes of TV, game system, computer, etc. Tickets can be used consecutively, but when they are out they are out for the week.
Great article on the Problem of Entitlement. I try to explain this SERIOUS problem to people, but they think because I don't have kids yet "I don't get it". Instead, I am surrounded by parent's über entitled kids.
Extra chores for when kids are naughty, whiney, tattle-taling, etc.what a great idea. Maybe call it the consequence jar, have white papers for older kids and pink for younger ones! Be great to also have a rewards jar for extra good behavior!
Love & Logic: Change the wording of what you ask the kids to do and become more effective. It's all perspective. Change accusatory you statements, into action-packed I-statements Angela's school had a training session for Love and Logic