I think every woman needs to learn to not need anyone and to always always be able to hold herself up alone. Nothing wrong with love of being with a man, just learn to keep your independence! Needing and wanting a man in your life is different.
”Trying to change people is pointless and insulting. Don't get sucked into negative vortex. Be bubbly, be happy be loud be fun and enjoy this short life. Find people who love like you do. And find people who aren't trying to change you"
There's a good passivity in life, one you learn to exercise with time. If people want you in their life, after you've shown and done your part, they will make it clear to you. Simplicity is always an active positive ingredient in human relationships.