if you can't be kind, be quiet. If only people remember that in the "HEAT" of the moment. When we were young, we were told just about the same thing. "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all"
"Life is Too Short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you" As Dr.Wayne Dyer always says, one of the first things you have to do to start on the path of the life you want, is to REMOVE yourself from the presence of negative people.
Replace fear of the unknown with curiosity curiosity killed the cat. It's first life was gone. It's second life was long but not nearly as fun. The cat wishes it could have used up all it's nine lives rather than just one and live the second in fear.