"Note to self: you gotta do this for you. This is for you. This isn't about anybody. Live for you. Honor you. Never lose sight of that." Some motivation for not just weight loss, but for any other goal you set for yourself in life.
It is not cheating. it is a choice decide exactly what you want and eat a single serving in public. It is success when you can forgive yourself for not being pefect instead of binging the rest of the day. There are no forbidden foods. Crude but true!