I forgive, but I also learn a lesson. I won't hate you, but I'll never get close enough for you to hurt me again. I can't let my forgiveness become foolishness. ~Tony Gaskins Lessons Learned In Life. The truth of reality
“Not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring. Some of them love us dearly. Many of them have good intentions. Most are toxic to our being simply because their needs and way of existing in the world force us to compromise ourselves and our happiness.
Psychopaths generate pity plays for many reasons. But it is especially dangerous because they use the poor me routine to manipulate their targets into forgiving them and giving them chance after chance after chance, thus perpetuating the cycle of abuse.
The time just before we fully recover is the trickiest time for us, because it's the time when we still feel the emotional pull, and it's the time when we need gentle but firm parenting from ourselves to bring us back to the reality of the situation.